A former classmate from Yale recently told me “monogamy is kind of outdated” and not good for society. So I asked her what her background is and if she planned to marry.
She said she comes from an affluent family and works at a well-known technology company. Yes, she personally intends to have a monogamous marriage — but quickly added that marriage shouldn’t have to be for everyone.
She was raised by a traditional family. She planned on having a traditional family. But she maintained that traditional families are old-fashioned and society should “evolve” beyond them.
What could explain this?
Americans keep moving to Texas and Florida — but one other red state is growing even faster
China orders firms to ignore US Iran sanctions, daring US to enforce crackdown
Mamdani Berates Billionaire Outside His Residence Near UnitedHealthcare CEO Assassination Site
Minnesota off-loads fraud cases onto federal investigators due to overwhelming backlog
Oregon burglary suspect nabbed after crashing SUV during police chase: video
Rudy Giuliani out of ICU, continuing to recover in hospital: ‘He’s winning this fight’
DHS urges Wisconsin ‘sanctuary’ county to keep illegal immigrant accused in elderly sexual assaults jailed
Judge denies Fulton County bid to retrieve 2020 ballots seized by FBI
Backlash erupts over viral video of CAIR leader as Newsom funding draws scrutiny
Kentucky man enters insanity plea after admitting to beating his grandmother to death in recorded attack
California immigration judge sues DOJ, alleging she was fired for being a registered Democrat, a woman over 40
Trump’s Psychedelic Push May Open a Door Christians Should Question
Schumer’s ‘No. 1 target’ says voters will see her Democrat Senate challenger as too extreme
Leftist Influencer’s Mangione Celebration Resurfaces After He Opposes Death Penalty for Child Murderer
Justice Neil Gorsuch breaks silence on violent threats against judiciary, Supreme Court leaks
In the past, upper-class Americans used to display their social status with luxury goods. Today, they do it with luxury beliefs.
People care a lot about social status. In fact, research indicates that respect and admiration from our peers are even more important than money for our sense of well-being.
We feel pressure to display our status in new ways. This is why fashionable clothing always changes. But as trendy clothes and other products become more accessible and affordable, there is increasingly less status attached to luxury goods.
The upper classes have found a clever solution to this problem: luxury beliefs. These are ideas and opinions that confer status on the rich at very little cost, while taking a toll on the lower class.
One example of luxury belief is that all family structures are equal. This is not true. Evidence is clear that families with two married parents are the most beneficial for young children. And yet, affluent, educated people raised by two married parents are more likely than others to believe monogamy is outdated, marriage is a sham or that all families are the same.
Relaxed attitudes about marriage trickle down to the working class and the poor. In the 1960s, marriage rates between upper-class and lower-class Americans were nearly identical. But during this time, affluent Americans loosened social norms, expressing skepticism about marriage and monogamy.
Americans keep moving to Texas and Florida — but one other red state is growing even faster
China orders firms to ignore US Iran sanctions, daring US to enforce crackdown
Mamdani Berates Billionaire Outside His Residence Near UnitedHealthcare CEO Assassination Site
Minnesota off-loads fraud cases onto federal investigators due to overwhelming backlog
Oregon burglary suspect nabbed after crashing SUV during police chase: video
Rudy Giuliani out of ICU, continuing to recover in hospital: ‘He’s winning this fight’
DHS urges Wisconsin ‘sanctuary’ county to keep illegal immigrant accused in elderly sexual assaults jailed
Judge denies Fulton County bid to retrieve 2020 ballots seized by FBI
Backlash erupts over viral video of CAIR leader as Newsom funding draws scrutiny
Kentucky man enters insanity plea after admitting to beating his grandmother to death in recorded attack
California immigration judge sues DOJ, alleging she was fired for being a registered Democrat, a woman over 40
Trump’s Psychedelic Push May Open a Door Christians Should Question
Schumer’s ‘No. 1 target’ says voters will see her Democrat Senate challenger as too extreme
Leftist Influencer’s Mangione Celebration Resurfaces After He Opposes Death Penalty for Child Murderer
Justice Neil Gorsuch breaks silence on violent threats against judiciary, Supreme Court leaks
This luxury belief contributed to the erosion of the family. Today, the marriage rates of affluent Americans are nearly the same as they were in the 1960s. But working-class people are far less likely to get married. Furthermore, out-of-wedlock birthrates are more than 10 times higher than they were in 1960, mostly among the poor and working class. Affluent people seldom have kids out of wedlock but are more likely than others to express the luxury belief that doing so is of no consequence.
Another luxury belief is that religion is irrational or harmful. Members of the upper class are most likely to be atheists or non-religious. But they have the resources and access to thrive without the unifying social edifice of religion.
Places of worship are often essential for the social fabric of poor communities. Denigrating the importance of religion harms the poor. While affluent people often find meaning in their work, most Americans do not have the luxury of a “profession.” They have jobs. They clock in, they clock out. Without a family or community to care for, such a job can feel meaningless.
Then there’s the luxury belief that individual decisions don’t matter much compared to random social forces, including luck. This belief is more common among many of my peers at Yale and Cambridge than the kids I grew up with in foster care or the women and men I served with in the military. The key message is that the outcomes of your life are beyond your control. This idea works to the benefit of the upper class and harms ordinary people.
Americans keep moving to Texas and Florida — but one other red state is growing even faster
China orders firms to ignore US Iran sanctions, daring US to enforce crackdown
Mamdani Berates Billionaire Outside His Residence Near UnitedHealthcare CEO Assassination Site
Minnesota off-loads fraud cases onto federal investigators due to overwhelming backlog
Oregon burglary suspect nabbed after crashing SUV during police chase: video
Rudy Giuliani out of ICU, continuing to recover in hospital: ‘He’s winning this fight’
DHS urges Wisconsin ‘sanctuary’ county to keep illegal immigrant accused in elderly sexual assaults jailed
Judge denies Fulton County bid to retrieve 2020 ballots seized by FBI
Backlash erupts over viral video of CAIR leader as Newsom funding draws scrutiny
Kentucky man enters insanity plea after admitting to beating his grandmother to death in recorded attack
California immigration judge sues DOJ, alleging she was fired for being a registered Democrat, a woman over 40
Trump’s Psychedelic Push May Open a Door Christians Should Question
Schumer’s ‘No. 1 target’ says voters will see her Democrat Senate challenger as too extreme
Leftist Influencer’s Mangione Celebration Resurfaces After He Opposes Death Penalty for Child Murderer
Justice Neil Gorsuch breaks silence on violent threats against judiciary, Supreme Court leaks
It is common to see students at prestigious universities work ceaselessly and then downplay the importance of tenacity. They perform an “aw, shucks” routine to suggest they just got lucky rather than accept credit for their efforts. This message is damaging. If disadvantaged people believe random chance is the key factor for success, they will be less likely to strive.
White privilege is the luxury belief that took me the longest to understand, because I grew up around poor whites. Often members of the upper-class claim that racial disparities stem from inherent advantages held by whites. Yet Asian Americans are more educated, have higher earnings and live longer than whites. Affluent whites are the most enthusiastic about the idea of white privilege, yet they are the least likely to incur any costs for promoting that belief. Rather, they raise their social standing by talking about their privilege.
In other words, upper-class whites gain status by talking about their high status. When laws are enacted to combat white privilege, it won’t be the privileged whites who are harmed. Poor whites will bear the brunt.
It’s possible that affluent whites don’t always agree with their own luxury beliefs, or at least have doubts. Maybe they don’t like the ideological fur coat they’re wearing. But if their peers punish them for not sporting it all over town, they will never leave the house without it again.
Because, like with diamond rings or designer clothes of old, upper-class people don a luxury belief to separate themselves from the lower class. These beliefs, in turn, produce real, tangible consequences for disadvantaged people, further widening the divide. Just as fashionable clothing will soon be outdated, so will today’s fashionable beliefs. In the future, expect the upper class to defame even more values — including ones they hold dear — in their quest to gain top-dog status.
Story cited here.
